I have experienced a relationship in which commitment was
present but love was not necessarily. I dated a guy back in high school and
although many say you really can’t know what love is at that age, of course we
thought we did. I was very immature and realized now that what we had was
commitment but lacked a sense of true love. I can remember us being together
all the time and trusting one another. Although we were young we had a
committed relationship in the sense that we were dedicated to each other and had
no interest in having an open relationship. There just came a time where that
just didn't feel like it was good enough for me. I felt as though I was
settling into a relationship where we were just coexisting. What was lacking
was true love. I realized this when I started dating my current boyfriend. I
fell in love with him and realized it was unlike anything that I had ever felt.
Every other relationship I had prior seemed so immature compared to this. I was
so happy in a relationship where we were both committed and completely in
love. In these type of committed
relationships there has to be both love and commitment. It’s almost as if one
can’t exist without the other.
I really enjoyed this post. I also experienced relationships in high school where I thought I was in the deepest of loves with such and such person but in hindsight I've come to realize it was either just infatuation or puppy love. To be truly in love with someone as well as wholly committed is a wonderful feeling once you've experienced it and makes anything and everything else seem like nothing. Personally with my boyfriend and I, love feels natural, like it's just this part of us. But what makes that love feel so phenomenal is knowing that we're both committed to making that love last. I agree that love and commitment should always go hand in hand if a relationship is going to work.
ReplyDeleteYour post this week was really interesting. High school relationships feel so real at the time but when you get out of high school you realize how immature they are. I had a relationship just like yours once. My ex boyfriend and I were interested in each other and we spent a lot of time together, but at that end of the day I didn’t feel complete. Settling is definitely not the best option because you have to be happy. Hopefully one day I find someone who makes me feel complete, you are lucky to have found someone who completes you.
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